Fix You (formerly titled Getting to Know People Better)

I was looking at a friends' blog and saw something she wrote about getting to know people. (Read it here.) There are definitely some things in there that I can relate to about Christian community.

What about you? Do you find that when you talk about personal stuff, maybe not-so-happy stuff, not really looking for advice, they just try to "fix you" and give you advice? Do you find that you do the same thing when people open up to you? Usually I'd prefer to just discuss whatever is on my mind and know that I'm not the only one thinking or feeling that way. Maybe some advice would help at some point, but a lot of it doesn't do much for me. But since I sometimes try to fix people, maybe the others don't really mean to try to fix me either. So patience probably is necessary. And Christian community has been good to me in many ways too. I've had some great discussions, been very encouraged, and I've been supported and empowered in other ways too. I've encountered people who were on the journey like me and didn't try to fix me.

And now, some random song lyrics that this post reminded me of, even though I'm not sure if they have anything to do with what I wrote:

When you try your best but you don't succeed
When you get what you want but not what you need
When you feel so tired but you can't sleep
Stuck in reverse

And the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can't replace
When you love someone but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

And high up above or down below
When you're too in love to let it go
But if you never try you'll never know
Just what you're worth

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

Tears stream down your face
when you lose something you cannot replace
Tears stream down your face
And I

Tears stream down your face
I promise you I will learn from my mistakes
Tears stream down your face
And I

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

--Fix You by Coldplay